Random (or not so random) Thoughts by Lilac, LOL
This is really random but something I was thinking about today (and I like how this blog site is a little more low key than the BN one :) I've realized this week that a LOT of people have trouble with figuring out the whole balance of when to trust people & when not to (not just me, LOL). I am realizing it's so much better to be your real self with people and to focus on having the courage to handle whatever someone may toss at you, rather than to avoid connecting with people because you're worried they might hurt you. Being happy is very much about learning how to brush things off and move on (however you need to) if, or when, someone is not respectful and worthy of your trust. Maybe that's obvious to everyone else, I don't know (it hasn't always been to me).
I do recognize the irony of writing about going out on a limb with people and being your true self with them on a blog that's only read by BHs (I know none of my "real world" friends will see it ;). BH world is like my training ground for how to deal with the rest of the world, but you gotta start somewhere, right? LOL
Also, I know this is JK's site but I was listening to this Gavin Degraw lyric that really struck me, given what I was thinking about ... "I'm a boomerang doesn't matter how you throw me. Turn around and I'm back in the game. Even better than the old me." Ok, so easier said than done, but I think that's what trusting people is about. You have to let people "Inside" (had to include a JK reference too ;) but at the same time you have to be prepared that sometimes people will let you down and not respect you. Whatever anyone else does though, you have to always deep down, be the person YOU are meant to be, you did the right thing letting them in, and if they were not respectful of that then it is THEIR burden to carry, not yours. You have to believe that you are strong enough to handle anything anyone else throws your way, and not let it change your willingness to believe in other people. Maybe I'm wrong, but right now this is what I'm thinking about.
"You don't have to be afraid or be ashamed, just be what God made you, let the world know just who you are" (probably my favorite JK lyric ever). If you let the world know who you really are, people are either going to respect it or not. If not, it tells you a LOT more about them than it does about you.
Just something to think about, trying to let the "real" me out (balancing the part of myself telling me to keep this to myself and the part saying to go out on a limb and post it) hoping to inspire others to consider thinking the same way in their lives :) Have a great week everyone!